Perception wins or creates defeat – depending on how you choose to look at the moment. Things will happen. What happens after the things happen makes the difference.
“He does matter,” she pouted as she exclaimed to her friend.
I watched the encounter unfolding at the table next to me. Two young girls were talking about something that had one of them stirred up.
“He does matter,” she said again. “Don’t you see my phone cover?” She held up her phone with the bedazzled frame around the smiling face of her teen idol.
Her friend looked at the phone cover and shrugged, proving the law of perspective.
It mattered to the girl who had invested in the cover. It didn’t matter to the other girl. The matter of what mattered was settled for each, but not for the other.
How do you perceive what is in front of you right now?
Every moment provides possibilities. Every moment will be infused with problems. What you experience comes from what you choose to see.
Finding The Possiblities
It doesn’t have to be big to make a difference – even a small possibility provides fuel for positive focus. Once you see one possibility you will be surprised at how the possibilities become the default.
It doesn’t have to be about the same – possibility growth and recognition won’t fit in a box. It changes from person to person and from moment to moment within the life of each person.
It doesn’t have to be about the moment – things can be crazy and chaotic in the moment but still offer a light into possibilities. It may not be possible right now, but it will be soon, and that becomes the lighthouse in the storm.
It doesn’t have to be long-term – possibility focus can be (and often is) “in this moment" thinking. It is something that gets you through the now to make way for more possibility in the future.
There is a possibility right now, where you are, with what you have. No matter how bad the circumstances or how tough the moment, you can choose to see the Light.
Overcoming the Problems
It doesn’t have to be big to get in the way – a problem becomes big when you let it be big by focusing on it. Make the choice to shift your focus and look for ways around the problem to take away its power.
It doesn’t have to be the same to make an issue – the problem you and I share will affect each of us different (depending on where we are and what else comes along for the ride). Be okay with the differences.
It doesn’t have to be about the moment – the trick of problems is to sneak in to ruin a moment that it’s not even related to. When you begin to worry or fret you allow the problems to have their moment over your moment.
It doesn’t have to be long-term – a problem of any size or duration knocks things off balance. Mulling over the problem blocks the opportunity. You can allow a short-term problem to become a long term hindrance through the wrong focus. Shift your thoughts to change the balance.
There will always be a choice. You can choose to focus on the problems or you can choose to find the possibilities. The way you perceive the moment will drive your direction.
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